Things that are meant to be scary: hayrides, haunted houses, and midnight corn mazes.
Things that are NOT meant to be scary: dates. The one thing that we don’t want to transform into a scary, haunted experience is our dating lives. While skeletons may be a fun and festive decoration for the season, it’s best to keep those skeletons in the closet when it comes to the first date. Here are our tips to make sure you shine, rather than spook on your first date.
Don’t over indulge-with words! As always, we suggest keeping first date conversation fun and light! While honesty is always the best policy, don’t share too much information about yourself, especially anything that might be perceived as negative. Keep things POSITIVE! Trust us, portraying yourself in the best light possible will help you shine later on down the road. Your family drama may be a better topic for date #10 than date #1.
Keep the skeletons in the closet, not on the dinner table. Don’t scare away your date by talking about your exes! Listen, nobody’s life is perfect, but on the first date those skeletons need to be kept hidden!
Avoid awkward silences. There’s nothing scarier than trying to think of something to say on a date, but it doesn’t have to be that complicated. Everybody wants to give information and then get information. If he asks you a question, respond and ask a follow up question in return.
Listen. There’s nothing worse than asking the same question over and over. Don’t forget to ask questions about your date and listen. When you listen, it’ll be easy to ask follow-up questions to keep the conversation flowing. And, you never know…all that listening might make it easier to plan a 2nd date! They might mention a movie they want to see, that they’re a football fan or have heard good things about a new restaurant in town.
And remember….keep things simple, fun, and positive. Dating can be scary enough; you don’t need to make it scarier!