In the age of modern technology, dating etiquette is constantly changing. Texting and social media present challenges for the best ways to meet, interact and communicate with potential love interests. There are many dos and don’ts of modern dating—finding the right protocol can be confusing. In order to overcome these challenges, focus your attention on putting your best foot forward, avoiding distractions, and truly getting to know your date.
First, let’s talk about texting! When a relationship is just starting out, stay away from sending extensive texts and having long conversations via text—keep it brief!
Sending a quick message the morning of or the night before, is a great way to confirm the date. A huge element of a relationship is chemistry, which can only be assessed with face-to-face interaction; thus, getting to know the other person via text, can cause you to miss out on an important element of the relationship.
While on the date, keep your phone out of reach. Nervously checking it or sending a quick text, suggests a lack of respect or interest in your date!
After the date, don’t stalk him/her via text. It is, however, completely acceptable to send a follow up text: thanking them and saying that you had a great time.
Having one or two cocktails on a date can be fun and a great way to ease some nerves. Setting a drink maximum and avoiding pre-date drinks, is an easy way to stay sharp and ensure you are making a good first impression.
Save the excitement for the date. Avoid Googling your date or searching through their Facebook profile. You will most likely be forming opinions, before truly getting to know that person. It’s easy for anyone to put on a social media persona. You may miss out on a great match, if you allow what you see online, stop you from meeting that person. Also, there are many personality facets you can’t assess online—body language, facial expressions and chemistry are just a few!
When is it acceptable to friend your date on Facebook, follow them on Instagram, and so on? Everyone will have a different perspective on this, and each relationship progression is different! It might be safer to wait until the two of you are exclusive.
Guys – chivalry is still alive! There is nothing out-of-date about you opening the door and treating your date with respect! However, in changing times, there is grey area when it comes to paying the bill. If you invited her out, be ready to pick up the tab. Girls – go ahead and offer to pay! A great plan is to reach for the check when it comes. If he insists, offer to split the bill or leave the tip.
When choosing an outfit for the date, wear something that makes you feel cool, calm and collected. Avoid breaking out those new 5-inch stilettos to try and impress your date. Choose an outfit that both makes you feel confident and will make a great first impression.
Modern dating is about being comfortable and confident. Be decisive and speak up! If your date asks where you want to go, provide one or two suggestions. Never be a pushover. For example, if your date takes the initiative and plans your date at a cocktail bar or a brewery, but you don’t drink—tell him! He will appreciate your honesty. It will make the date more enjoyable if both of you are comfortable.
As times and trends change, it will always remain constant that people are searching for lasting relationships and love. Don’t allow the fear of changing trends, keep you from staying in the game. Let these tips guide you’re dating life, and you will be headed down the right path, toward great dates!