Getting ready for a first date can be stressful and time consuming. But think about it…you both are experiencing the same nerves and excitement! You can never plan exactly how the date is going to play out, but you can go in prepared. Always go into the date with a positive attitude and try to relax as you get to know the other person.
Think about conversation like a tennis match. When you serve (asking the question), your date should hit the ball back (the answer). You don’t want to drop the ball, so make sure to hit it back (follow up, express your interest, add on to your dates answer). A date isn’t a job interview and you don’t want to answer questions with just a simple one or two word answer. And don’t forget—no matter what the topic is always stay positive.
Make sure to have an open conversation, get to know each other and don’t switch from topic to topic right away. Also, there are some topics you should NEVER bring up.
Your date doesn’t want to learn about your past dates, serious partners, or your past marriages. They ended for a reason and it’s not the time to bring it up. If it comes up, answer but make sure to put a positive spin on it. No one wants to hear you bashing your ex, it’s unattractive and unnecessary. Also, when learning about someone they don’t want to hear about your bad traits…stay positive! This should be a fun experience, not depressing.
Deciding to date again can be a terrifying thought and this may be your first date in 40 years or you may have had a date the night before, but always remember to relax, stay positive and most importantly ENJOY YOURSELF!