For many professional singles, eye contact is a critical aspect of building connections with others for dating and for networking. However, the invention of smartphones seems to have created a worldwide epidemic resulting in the decline of eye contact among professional singles all over the world. Could you be sending your date the wrong message through your eye contact?
In the case of eye contact in dating, too much can come off as slightly aggressive and even intimidating, while too little can be portrayed as a lack of interested in the person trying to communicate with you. Unfortunately, many professional singles are unaware of the message they may be sending through their eye contact. Shy singles, for instance, tend to glance around a lot and avoid eye contact because it makes them uncomfortably nervous talking to someone they are super interested in. On the opposite end of the spectrum, confident singles can sometimes overdo the eye contact when they are really interested in someone but end up sending a creepy vibe to the recipient of their eye flirting.
If you want send the right message with your eye contact, the right amount of eye contact to make would be about 5-7 seconds before looking away. It’s important to maintain eye contact throughout a conversation because it shows that you are listening and that you are present with them as opposed to thinking about something else or tuning them out completely. After about 5-7 seconds of eye contact, that’s when you start to feel like you may be staring. At that point, shift your eye contact to a nearby facial feature as a focal point. A popular place to divert eye contact without looking away is the space between their eyes right above the nose near the middle of the forehead. Another place to look is the lips. The lips are especially great place to look to indicate some level of attraction and build chemistry.