With each generation new norms are created. The way we date has changed drastically over the years. Whatever happened to true courtship? Let’s take a look at some old-fashioned dating trends we should seriously consider bringing back!
Getting picked up at the door.
Bringing flowers or a small gift to show affection.
Dressing up for the date.
Asking someone out on a real date, and asking in person.
Opening the car door for your date.
Properly introducing your date if you run into friends while out.
Focusing on each other rather than electronics. Having real one-on-one time together.
Asking permission and being clear about intentions.
Having limited contact and set-in-stone plans – today texting changes everything!
Making small romantic gestures like writing love letters.
Moving slowly, and enjoying the courtship.
Not only can we learn a lot from throwing it back to how people used to court, we can also get some great date ideas! It’s time to put technology away, and enjoy some good old-fashioned fun!
Take a drive out of the city and go star gazing.
Go to a drive-in movie or a movie in the park.
Hit a casual old-fashioned diner for burgers and milkshakes.
Find a roller rink and go roller skating.
Go dancing or take dance lessons. Skip the club and learn how to either ballroom or square dance.
Take a romantic carriage ride.
Enjoy a throwback to your childhood and spend the afternoon in an arcade – there’s nothing wrong with a little friendly competition!
Take a walk in the park and share an ice cream cone.
Spend the night at home and break out the board games.
Hit a local fair, enjoy some cotton candy and take a romantic ride on the Ferris wheel.
Myth #1 – “I can go online for free.” Free in theory. The truth is these aren’t exactly free. Think of how much of your own time you invest into the free sites. Think about the thousands of profiles you have to weed through, the messaging back and forth – all this work before you even go on a date! On average, online daters spend 12 hours a week engaged in computer based online dating activity.1 Using a matchmaking service saves you time and helps weed out people who are not serious about finding a relationship. It also protects you from scammers or people misrepresenting themselves. A recent study demonstrated 54% of online daters felt someone else seriously misrepresented themselves in their profile.1 The last thing our clients want to do is waste valuable personal time making a connection with someone who isn’t exactly what he or she made themselves out to be. Therefore, as online sites may seem like the inexpensive choice, they are not without cost – you are still investing yourself and your time.
Myth #2 – “Matchmakers are for millionaires.” Each person has unique life circumstances and their own set of financial circumstances. We work with everyday professionals – all types of people – people just like you. It’s true that some matchmaking services, such as ones we might see in the media target a select group of people; however, the industry of matchmaking goes so much further than a select group. After all, everyone deserves love! Hiring a matchmaker is about making an investment in yourself, just as paying for a gym membership is an investment in yourself. It’s about prioritizing what’s most important to you! You do not have to be a millionaire to hire help in finding love. Just think of how much less expensive hiring a matchmaker is than going through a divorce.
Myth #3 – “Matchmakers are for losers.” Hiring a matchmaker doesn’t mean you are desperate or lonely. It doesn’t mean you couldn’t find anyone on your own. Rather, it means that you are serious about love and don’t want waste your time with people who aren’t serious. Hiring a matchmaker is the “in” thing to do. Think of all current reality shows about love and professional matchmakers. This is the time to take finding love into your own hands; no more waiting around. As matchmakers, we seek out relationship-ready, well-rounded people who are serious about finding love. People trust us with their personal lives because of our discretion, standards and personalized service. Matchmakers are for those who want to make a proactive change and meet matches who are personally hand chosen rather than chosen through algorithms.
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The spark – a feeling of sudden heat, instant passion and undeniable chemistry. The media, romantic comedies and romance novels, have all programmed us to crave an instant spark. After all, who doesn’t want to find the love we see in the movies?
We’re all guilty of blaming a bad date to having “no spark” as a way out of really addressing why the person we met wasn’t right for us. What’s really going on here? Let’s take a deeper look!
At It’s Just Lunch we witness this first hand – sometimes our clients go on a date and report back that there wasn’t an instant “spark;” thus, they aren’t interested in pursuing a second date. If the first date went well but you aren’t sure if it’s the right fit, give it a second date and see where it goes! We always encourage clients to give it a second try – what do you really have to lose? We’ve seen this advice prosper into many lasting relationships. Relationships that never would have occurred if these clients only relied on an instant spark.
I’m certainly not saying that the spark is a myth that we make up to justify why we want to see someone again, but what I am saying is that relationships and connections aren’t always instant and they need time to grow! It is okay to call it quits if you have a miserable first date! However, there are so many factors, first date jitters being one, which can get in the way of a great first date. Nerves can make anyone feel and act unnatural!
If you enjoyed your time and had good conversation – give it more time. Everyone and every situation is different – but generally, after three dates, you should be able to discern if there is or isn’t something there.
Writing someone off too soon, may cause you to miss out on the love you’re looking for. Some relationships develop slower than others. Who’s to say these relationships are any less loving, passionate and meaningful than relationships that start with an instant spark?
After all – the spark can fade! Often people who feel this instant electricity don’t last past the honeymoon stage, because once the spark fades, they lack common values or miss the excitement they once had. Moral of the story – give everyone a chance.
Relationships aren’t formed over the course of an hour long lunch date, it takes time to build connections. Wouldn’t you rather give it a second chance and know for sure it wasn’t the right fit than instantly dismiss a date because you didn’t feel an instant “spark”? Don’t miss out on something great!