We recently had a great woman, Laura, join It’s Just Lunch, she’s in her 30’s, never married, smart, confident, and beautiful and admitted she was “tired of being picked up at the bar”. During her interview with her Director, she admitted she was nervous about joining It’s Just Lunch but decided to come in for an interview after her best friend emailed her an article titled “25 Signs You’re Ready for a Relationship” from the online blog dedicated to articles on love, dating and relationships, YourTango.
Laura read through the article and found that many of the testimonials applied to her and she decided to be pro-active about her dating life. Laura emailed us the article today and thanked us for a great first date with Brian. She’s meeting Steve in a couple days and we can’t wait to send her out on more fun, first dates!
Our office read over the article and our favorites include:
#24--You know your turn-ons. When you know what turns you on, what brings you pleasure and you aren't afraid to go after it, it's a good sign you're ready to share love with someone else. The key to this is honoring that you are deserving of pleasure whether you are with someone or not and recognizing that all types of sensual pleasure—the foods you eat, the smells around you, a cool shower on a hot day—keep you vibrant and alive.
- Melissa Fritchle
#17--You're self-confident. Self-confidence is the key to knowing that you're ready for love (it's also the most powerful aphrodisiac). When you take pride in yourself and you are clear about your own worth—that is when you'll be able to attract someone who honors you and himself in a healthy relationship.
- Shoshana Bennett
#12--You smile a lot. Notice the next time you see your reflection. No matter what you might be wearing or if it is a good hair day or not, is the reflection you catch a glimpse of is one that makes you smile? When you catch yourself smiling more than making comment, excuse or judgment, then you know you accept yourself unconditionally—and are ready to do the same for another, too.
- Karen Kleinwort
#9--You're OK being single. If you can say "I am OK without a relationship," then you're ready for one! You're OK being single—not in a resigned or defeated way. It's more about one have a deep knowing of who you are, your purpose and that while you desire love, you won't allow yourself to be miserable while you're single.
- Alanna Levenson
#8--You've tossed your list. I know my clients are ready for love when they don't come to a session with a ridged set of expectations and a laundry list of must-haves and deal breakers. They simply want to find someone wonderful to love and share their life with.
- Julianne Cantarella, MSW, LSW
#2--You complete yourself. You know you are ready for a relationship when you don't need a relationship to feel happy and worthy, when you want a relationship to share your love rather than to get love, when loving yourself and sharing your love is more important to you than having control over getting love. When you want a relationship to deepen your growth rather than to fill your emptiness, you are ready.
- Margaret Paul
To read the rest of the article, click here. Are you feeling like Laura? Give us a call today!
