When it comes to first dates, the classic “You only have one chance to make a great first impression” is sure to come to mind. Our latest IJL dating survey states that singles are quick (within 15-20 minutes) to decide whether or not they’re interested in seeing someone again. What happens in those first moments often determines whether or not there will be a second date or any potential relationship. As First Date Specialists, we always encourage our clients to see their match for a second date (even if there was only a tiny bit of interest) since you can never really know.
With our latest research in mind, we’ve prepared a few simple tips to help you make a good first impression during those initial moments of your date:
Tip #1
Be aware of your body language. Trust us; it can speak louder than words! You want to create an open and inviting attitude. Make sure to sit or stand tall with your shoulders back and not hunched over. Remember Table Manners 101, watch your elbows and don’t rest your head on your hand. And most importantly…uncross your arms!
Tip #2
Be positive. If you’re in a bad mood before a date, do something to cheer you up. Listen to some music to “pump you up”, call a friend for a pep talk or take a walk to clear your head. Do something to help change your attitude and make yourself genuinely happy! This attitude change will make you appear confident (which is attractive) and your smile will be genuine and not fake.
Tip #3
Eye contact! Staring at the menu while you talk or looking all around the room is not flattering. A great way to show your interest is to hold eye contact for just a couple beats longer than usual and smile.
Tip #4
Breathe. Remember the person sitting across the table from you is probably just as nervous as you are. It’s important to relax and turn off your nervous habits…talking too fast, twirling your hair, drumming your fingers on the table. These nervous habits are distracting and makes it tough for the other person to warm up to you.
