Last week, we took a look at the Top 5 male dating insecurities. Now, let’s take a look from the female perspective. Here’s the top five female dating worries and how to overcome.
1) Appearance
Girls, when you talk yourself out of being excited about a date because you have the insane thought that all men want a woman who looks like a princess and acts like a prostitute, just know that this is completely untrue, and it’s keeping you from finding true love. Most guys aren’t looking for a fake, plastic Barbie; they’re searching for a fun life partner who will spoon with him and kiss his tears. Oh, and if he does want Barbie, then he’s not the right one for you, anyway!
Guys, real men want real women, right? Please understand that the superficial society that we live in is really doing a number on women’s body images! Lip injections, fake breasts, and hair extensions are not natural and should not be the norm. Make sure you’re not contributing to your date’s unrealistic expectations.
2) Food
Ladies, it’s just lunch, but we know that there’s no such thing as just lunch, dinner, or even a snack, because what you eat and when you eat it is a constant source of stress and anxiety for most of us. But you have to try to put your issues with food aside and pay attention to your date, instead. If you really start dating this guy, you two will be eating many, many meals together, so don’t pretend to be one of those girls who can run all day on a few iceberg leaves. Remember that guys like women with hearty appetites (in and out of the bedroom), so don’t be afraid to eat real food and let him know how much you enjoy it!
Gentlemen, you know that girls can be a bit nutty when it comes to food, so please don’t add fuel to the fire by talking about fat content or calories while on a date. She might just take it personally if you ask three times if she wants a Diet Coke instead of regular. Plus, dessert is sexy and good for the soul. We also suggest always ordering a dessert to share and encouraging her to eat more than half of it.
3) Age
Ladies, we know that some of you may be hearing your biological clock ticking louder than Marisa Tomei could ever stomp her foot, and even worse – you’re worried that your date can hear it, too! There is only one thing you can do about this while you’re actually on the date. Relax. Stop doing the math about how old you’ll be at your firstborn’s wedding even if you get pregnant tomorrow or worrying if this guy would rather be with someone half his age, and start paying attention to whether or not you even like him.
Guys, you already know not to ask your date’s age right off the bat, but don’t ask for it in sneaky ways, either, like by inquiring about when she graduated from college or what her prom song was. Not every woman over (or nearing) thirty is in a rush to have kids, so don’t let her age scare you! It’s a cliché because it’s true – age is nothing more than a number. Focus on getting her number, instead.
4) Sex
Girls, we know that everything about sex might make you insecure on a date – whether or not he’ll want you, whether or not you’ll want him, whether you’re experienced enough or too experienced…it just goes on and on! The truth is simple: You have what he wants. Trust in this and let it be your guide through every date, whether it ends in bed or with a chaste kiss on the cheek.
Guys, guess what? Women are just as insecure in the bedroom as you are. Who knew you had so much in common? Without acting skeevy, let her know that she does indeed have what you want. Compliment her hair, her dress, or her eyes. Let her know that she’s beautiful and sexy, and insecurity-free sex (which is really the only good kind) will be in both of your futures.
5) Job
Even if you have a fabulous job, you may be concerned that your date will judge you based on what you do for a living. Unlike with men, many women are actually worried that their high-powered careers may intimidate men or be scared that working eighty hours a week sends a message to men that marriage and family are not their priorities. Well, ladies, don’t for one second play small or minimize your hard earned success in order to win over a man. The right man will be impressed and turned on by a powerful, successful, passionate woman like you.
We hope you guys know not to belittle your date’s career or even ask yourself silly questions like, “She has a great job and makes plenty of money – what does she need me for?” The women you are dating are looking for a partner to share their lives with, not a meal ticket – and you should be very glad of that. Trust that you have plenty of other important things to offer her (companionship, passion, love, etc.) and your dating life will be much more balanced and happy.
