“It takes half the total time you went out with someone to get over them”—Charlotte York, Sex in the City.
When you go thru a breakup, no matter how serious the relationship was, it can be difficult to know when you’re ready to move on and meet someone new. Charlotte York from Sex in the City stated that it takes half the time of your relationship but there are many theories on how long it takes to heal a broken heart: days, weeks, months but no matter the amount of time they all have something in common…it’s never easy.
Deciding when you’re ready to jump back into the dating scene is a personal decision and can vary from person to person and relationship to relationship. The Two of Us, a website dedicated to relationship tips and recourses offers questions to ask yourself when considering if you’re ready to move on.
- Can you speak of the relationship without feeling angry or bitter about the breakup? This kind of reaction may be a turn-off to potential new love interests and may indicate that you are still grieving.
- If your ex wanted to rekindle the relationship how would you respond? If your impulse is to take him/her back, you might not be ready to open yourself up to someone new.
- Do you find yourself continually talking about the relationship or your ex? If conversations you have with friends and family typically leads to a story involving your ex, the situation is still in the forefront of your mind and you may need more time to talk through the hurt that the breakup has caused.
- Can you respond to memories of the relationship with a positive outlook? Reminiscing, accepting the relationship for what it was and learning from it is often a sign that you are moving on. If you get the feeling of knots in your stomach whenever you see your ex or look at a picture, you might need more time.
For more advice on dealing with a breakup, click here.
When you’re in a good place to date again, dating with It’s Just Lunch is a good way to jump back into the dating scene. As First Date Specialists, we love coordinating fun, low-pressure dates for our clients. And we do all the work for you…from matching you to coordinating all the logistics of the date. All you have to do is show up and have fun….it’s just lunch!
